Self-kindness when you’re not at 100%

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Published 21 May 2025 | Written by Dr. Evelyn Parker

Let’s be real: periods aren’t just a “five-day inconvenience” — they’re a full-body experience that can affect energy, focus, emotions, and even our ability to get through the workday. When you’re not feeling your best, especially during menstruation, it’s essential to practice self-kindness — not just as a feel-good phrase, but as a powerful tool to stay balanced and productive without burning out.

Here’s how you can embrace self-kindness when your cycle hits and you’re not functioning at 100%.


1. Acknowledge Your Body’s Signals

First, pause and listen. Is your body asking for rest? Warmth? Lighter movement? Extra hydration? Instead of pushing through cramps, fatigue, or brain fog, acknowledge how you feel. Tracking your cycle can help you anticipate these shifts and plan lighter workloads when needed.

Tip: Use a menstrual tracking app or a simple journal to note your energy levels, mood, and physical symptoms. You’ll start seeing patterns and can plan accordingly.


2. Redefine Productivity

You don’t have to cross everything off your to-do list to feel accomplished. Productivity during your period might look like completing one key task, taking timely breaks, or delegating when possible.

Self-kindness mindset: “I’m doing what I can today, and that’s enough.”


3. Communicate Your Needs at Work

If your workplace allows, speak openly with your manager or team. You don’t need to give all the details — just a simple, “I’m feeling a bit low today, so I’m focusing on priority tasks,” can set the tone and protect your energy.

Bonus: Over time, this helps normalize menstrual wellness in professional spaces.


4. Build a ‘Period Toolkit’ for Workdays

Keep comforting items nearby — a heating pad, herbal teas, pain relievers, or even a cozy shawl for those shivery moments. A curated “period kit” in your desk drawer or bag can make tough days gentler.

Suggested items:

  • Hot water bottle or patch

  • Chamomile or ginger tea

  • Snacks to balance blood sugar

  • Extra sanitary products

  • Reusable pads or menstrual cups if you prefer eco-friendly care


5. Create Mini Rest Breaks

Use a timer (like the Pomodoro technique) to structure focused work sessions followed by rest. During breaks, stretch, breathe, or simply close your eyes. Short mindful moments can recharge you more than you’d expect.

Kind action: Step outside for 5 minutes of fresh air or do a few shoulder rolls at your desk.


6. Say No Without Guilt

If you feel overwhelmed or are asked to take on more than you can handle, it’s okay to decline. Saying no isn't a weakness — it’s setting boundaries to honor your well-being.

Try this: “I’d love to help, but today I need to focus on what’s already on my plate.”


7. Replace Self-Criticism with Compassion

It’s easy to spiral into negative self-talk when we’re not functioning at full speed. But remember, your body is doing a lot behind the scenes. Give yourself credit. You’re not lazy — you’re human, and this phase will pass.

Gentle affirmation: “My body is working hard, and I choose to support it with kindness.”


🌸 Final Thoughts

Periods aren’t a productivity killer — they’re a reminder that your body moves in rhythms. Some days are high-energy, and others require softness. Tracking your cycle and building routines around those natural changes empowers you to work smarter, not harder.

So the next time you’re not at 100%, remember: self-kindness isn’t indulgent — it’s intelligent, compassionate, and necessary.